That isn't what I meant!" Truly listening and being heard is far from simple, even between people who care about each other. This perennial bestseller—now revised and updated for the digital age—has helpedmore than 150,000 readers resolve conflicts and transform their personal and professional relationships. Renowned therapist Michael P. Nichols analyzes how any conversation can go off the rails and provides essential skills for building mutual understanding. Thoughtful, witty, and empathic, the book is filled with vivid stories of couples, coworkers, friends, and family working through tough emotions and navigating differences of all kinds. With new coauthor Martha B. Straus, the third edition reflects the huge impact of technology and social media on relationships, and gives advice for talking to loved ones across social and political divides.